Showing posts with label Sexual Abuse. Show all posts
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Sunday, January 5, 2020

Sunday Read: MacArthur Genius Fellow opens up about childhood sexual abuse

MacArthur Foundation
sujatha baliga was named a MacArthur Genius Fellow for 2019.

By Irene Chang

ASAM NEWS
sujatha baliga may be a 2019 MacArthur Genius Fellow, but she remains so humble she prefers to spell her name in lowercase.


baliga works with Impact Justice in Oakland, California as the director of the Restorative Justice Project, an initiative that centers around providing alternatives for youth in the criminal justice system.

baliga’s work revolves around restorative justice, which encourages “constructive, rather than punitive or retributive, responses to wrongdoing.” Restorative justice heals everyone involved — including the crime survivor, the surrounding community, and those who have caused harm — and brings them together to discuss a plan to make amends.

The MacArthur Foundation awarded her a $625,000 five year Genius Grant which she plans to use to spread her message of restorative justice.

“The role of a restorative justice facilitator is to create spaces in which people can have necessary conversations for the well-being of their relationship, including to address conflict and harm,” baliga told AsAmNews. “The most important thing is to hold with equal partiality everyone impacted by what’s happening.”

Prior to moving to California, baliga had been a former victim advocate and public defender in New York and New Mexico. baliga’s inspiration for restorative justice came from the Restorative Justice for Oakland Youth (RJOY), an organization that she said factors the Oakland community into its justice practices.

“They think about doing things Oakland style,” baliga said. “And I think that’s a really important thing to do, to center the community in which you’re working, in thinking about how restorative justice should flourish.”

Just before earning her J.D. at the University of Pennsylvania, baliga lived in India and spent time with a community of Tibetan refugees. She learned about the Tibetan system of justice prior to Chinese occupation, a system that focused on healing for all involved, rather than forming sides and pitting people against each other.

“I really started to see that there could be justice systems that didn’t rely on the binary thinking of putting people in different camps and having them duel it out,” she said.

baliga had gone into law school thinking she would primarily be a victim advocate and prosecutor. But after observing how the current justice system works in “a notion of sides, of ‘us versus them,'” she found that the Tibetan justice system especially appealed to her.

baliga also attributes her dedication to alternative justice methods to her own background. Restorative justice is the perfect intersection between her cultural identity as an Indian American and a Buddhist, and her professional practices of being an attorney.

“I’ve literally broken every ‘Asian girl rule,'” she laughed, referring to how she didn’t stick to the expectation of working in a law firm, or being silent about her sexual abuse to make herself “marriageable on the Indian marriage market.”

“I didn’t follow any of those rules that were externally imposed,” she added. “It’s the ‘good Asian girl’ rules that I broke, but not what it means to be deeply connected to the things that are most important about Asian culture.”

If anything, baliga’s Asian identity drove her into this direction. Her Buddhist practice allowed her to think of justice in alternate ways, and her focus on healing entire families and communities rather than single individuals hails from the idea of a collectivist culture within Asian countries.

She is also outspoken about growing up in an abusive home and being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse from her father, and speaks publicly about her experiences on forgiveness.

“It is really, really important to me that my story becomes more publicly accessible to so many survivors who live with secrecy and shame and silence,” she said.





Part of her quest in spreading restorative justice practices is to allow everyone affected in a crime, including the perpetrator, to participate in a rehabilitating process. baliga needed a deeper level of healing for the entire family, one that current justice systems couldn’t provide.

“I didn’t ever see my father as the enemy,” said the US-born daughter of immigrants from India. “I wanted us all to heal, and the systems that were in theory designed to protect me — like the criminal legal system and child protective services — weren’t designed in any way to attend to all of us simultaneously.”

baliga and her team have helped jurisdictions across the nation create youth diversion programs across the nation, which allow juveniles to actively work with their victims and communities and remain accountable for the harm they’ve caused. These programs provide alternatives to the punishment of youth detention centers and zero-tolerance school discipline policies.

“That’s essentially what the restorative justice process looks like,” baliga said. “It’s people who are being supported to be directly accountable to their crime survivors and self-identify needs — and we do that through dialogue.”

Currently, baliga said that she’s focusing on restorative justice methods for partner and sexual violence, and how to apply these practices in a safe and effective way to heal affected families.

Winning the MacArthur Genius award and title has not only freed baliga financially to pursue her research in furthering restorative justice, but has also lifted her up as a public Asian American survivor of child sexual abuse.

“If my receiving this award helps people know that not only can you transcend unthinkable harms, like child sexual abuse, but that you can go on to flourish and to turn what’s happened to you into something that can be a benefit to others and to live a rewarding life; like that is just such a blessing,” she said.

Saturday, August 18, 2018

UCLA athletes recall abuse by gymnastic doctor

SCREEN CAPTURE / CBS
UCLA gymnasts Kyla Ross, eft and Madison Kocian reveal they abuse they suffered.
IT TOOK YEARS before the awful truth dawned on UCLA gymnast Kyla Ross. Memories were repressed, but this year, she realized that she was among those hundreds of young women who were abused by former USA Gymnastics national team doctor Larry Nassar.
“Everyone copes in their own way,” said Ross, a member of the Fierce Five that stormed to gold at the 2012 Olympics.

Ross revealed that the abuse happened when she was 13-years old, and at the time she thought it was a legitimate treatment.



Larry Nassar
“It doesn’t matter how old you are and what happens to you. I’ve come to the point in my life this is something I want to share my story and move on,” Ross told the Associated Press.

Ross recently appeared on CBS' This Morning Show with fellow gymnast Madison Kocian, who won team gold in the 2016 Olympics, to discuss the sexual abuse they suffered as elite gymnasts. Ross' father is of African American and Japanese ancestry, and her mother is of Filipino and Puerto Rican descent

Ross and Kocian have retired from elite gymnastics and now compete at the college level as teammates at UCLA. They helped their team to the NCAA championship last Spring.

The two student/athletes say they were in denial about their abuse. The turning point came in January as they watched nearly 200 women come forward to read victim impact statements to Nassar. NASA was found guilty last January and sentenced to 174 years in prison.

The two women listened to Jordyn Wieber, who competed alongside Ross at the 2012 London games and now serves as an assistant coach with the Bruins. Until she stood in front of Nassar, Wieber had never spoken publicly about her abuse, according to The Guardian.

“Just seeing the process through her view had helped me find my voice and be confident in myself and realize I was a victim,” Ross told The Guardian. “But we don’t want to be viewed as victims. This is something we have to grow through. Now we’re just trying to find our voice and help.”

With the revelations from Ross and Kocian, all five members of the 2012 Olympic team Ross, Wieber, Aly Raisman, Gabby Douglas and McKayla Maroney have revealed they were abused by Nassar. Kocian became the fourth member of the 2016 Olympic team to come forward, joining Raisman, Douglas and Simone Biles. 

Ross and Kocian have both filed civil lawsuits against Michigan State where Nassar worked for decades and plan to do the same against the United States Olympic Committee and USA Gymnastics.

They place part of the blame for their abuse on what they described as a toxic culture around the USA Gymnastics elite program that allowed Nassar’s treatment to run unchecked.

Like many of the athletes who have testified, the Ross and Kocian were too intimidated to question it the physical therapy. “We were told it was a medical procedure. A lot of us had back injuries or hamstring injuries, and (were told) that this was the only option because he was our team doctor. If we were to speak up, you probably wouldn’t have been in that consideration of making that [Olympic] team,” Kocian said.

USA Gymnastics said in a statement it is “heartbroken” that Ross and Kocian are among Nassar’s victims, adding “their powerful voices and stories will continue to be a basis for our future decisions.”

“It’s saddening to know a lot of gymnasts have gone through this and (USAG) has not reached out to see how we are doing as people, not as just as athletes but as individuals who grew up in the sport,” Ross said on CBS.
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