Asian teens under pressure in Silicon Valley? CDC studies high suicide rate

OVER THE course of nine months in 2009 and 2010, six Palo Alto teenagers committed suicide. Between 2010 and 2014, an average of 20 children and young adults killed themselves annually in Santa Clara County, where Palo Alto is located.

The deaths in the city constitute two recent “suicide clusters” (multiple suicides within a short time frame); there are an average of five in the entire country each year. Having two in the same city in less than a decade is extremely rare.

Five times the national average!

The suicide clusters raises concerns in the Asian/American community and attracted the attention of mental health professionals here because 40 percent of the victims have been Asian/American. In Palo Alto Unified School District, over 40 percent of students identify as Asian.

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The students died on the tracks, but also by hanging and jumping off a roof or overpass. Each time it happened, their classmates mourned them, and their distraught parents sought answers.

In response to what Santa Clara County officials have called an urgent public health problem, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention is launching an epidemiological study on teen suicide in the area. A team of suicide prevention specialists arrived in Santa Clara a week ago for a two-week site visit.

In November 2014, the CDC conducted similar research in Fairfax, Va., and found “multiple risk factors,” including high expectations for students, parental pressure on students for success and parental denial of mental health issues among their children. It found that 72 percent of youth suicides exhibited mental health problems.

Community members hope that the study will yield responses to the question that has plagued them for the past seven years, when the first suicides began: If these kids had everything they needed to succeed, why were so many choosing to or contemplating giving up on life altogether?

In a wealthy community like Silicon Valley, one might assume that the kids have all that they need to succeed. What would they have to worry about?

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Some believe that the emphasis Asian parents place on their kids to be academically successful has added to the pressure that the high schoolers face on top of the social and racial hurdles teens normally face.

In “The Problem With Rich Kids,” published by Psychology Today in November 2013, former Yale psychologist Suniya Luthar noted that social, emotional and behavioral issues are as prevalent in the wealthy end of the socioeconomic spectrum as they are on the poor end.

She said that, on average, rich offspring experience serious levels of depression and anxiety at twice the national rates.

“The evidence all points to one cause underlying the different disturbances documented: pressure for high-octane achievement,” Luthar wrote. “The children of affluent parents expect to excel at school and in multiple extracurriculars and also in their social lives. … It plays out in crippling anxiety and depression, about anticipated or perceived achievement ‘failures.'”

Immigrant dreams turn into a nightmare of lies and deceit for Canadian family

AS ASIAN AMERICANS, many of us have felt the pressure to be the perfect child, to excel in academics, to have a lucrative career by meeting your parent's high expectations. 

Somehow, most of us learn to deal with those expectations and to become our own person. I felt that to please my parents, I would become an architect. I was good in art, pretty good in math and I had learned to skew all those aptitude tests to direct me to a career I wanted since I was a wee child.

In my second year at Cal, I was in the College of Environmental Design and felt I was on the way to fulfilling my dream to become an architect ... or what I thought was my parents' dream. Then during the campus strikes over the Kent State shootings, I found myself putting out a newsletter for all the striking students in my college. I discovered writing came easy for me and I enjoyed having a voice in the discussions of the time.

To cut a long story short, by my last year, I had already decided I was not going to become an architect. I would write screenplays. I would write novels, short stories, essays. I never thought of becoming a journalist, but that is what I eventually found myself becoming. I loved it!

Most of us learn to cope with our immigrant parents' desire for their children to have a better life than one their own; and all the sacrifices they made for their children.

Sometimes, there are a few who do everything they can to make our parents' dreams come true -- even if its through a tangled web of lies and deceit.

The Toronto Sun has a mesmerizing story about one such person titled Jennifer Pan's Revenge. Jennifer Pan concocted a complex life based on the image of that perfect child, that perfect student - except it was all a lie. When her deceit was uncovered, she and her boyfriend hatched a plot to kill her parents. Pan's story would make a fantastic character study of the downward spiral of the model daughter.

RELATED: The Washington Post followed up on the tragedy with a slightly different take and reactions from some academics and sociologists.

I encourage you to read the story by Karen K. Ho, a schoolmate of the principle characters in this real-life morality play. The story is not your average story of Asian American kids who go against their parents'  wishes to pursue personally gratifying, but financially unstable, careers in the arts. It is an example of what could go drastically wrong and veer into a state of emotional and mental instability for some individuals who couldn't cope with what they perceive as parental pressure. 

I repeat: Don't fall into the trap of making generalizations about Asians and Tiger parenting. Although many of us Asian Americans might find some aspect to relate to in Jennifer's story, the vast majority of us manage to survive our childhoods unscathed and well adjusted.

Jennifer Pan's story is an extreme example of a seemingly perfect family that unraveled while trying to live up to a dream that twisted into a nightmare.

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